Have you answered George Kinder’s questions? – the best interest

Some calls George Kinder (rhymes with Tinder) The ‘father of life planning’. He is a financial planner, author and pioneer in integrating personal values ​​and life goals in financial planning.

Although the work of children is diverse and in -depth, he is best known for three deceptively simple questions. Simple, but powerful.

These three questions were designed to make people think beyond money and in what is really important in their lives. They are:

Question 1: “Imagine that you are financially safe. You have enough money to take care of your needs, now and in the future. How would you live your life? What would you do with the money? Would you change something? Would you dream.”

Question 2: “Imagine that you visit your doctor who tells you that you will have 5-10 years left to live. You will never feel sick, but you will not have a notification of the moment of death. What are you going to do in the time you have left? Do you want to change your life? How are you going to live your remaining years?”

Question 3: “Imagine that your doctor shakes you with the news that you only have 24 hours left to live. Brand on which feelings occur if you confront your very real mortality. What have you missed? Who didn’t you become? What have you not received?”

Question 1 removes money as a limitation. It is about exposing values ​​and desires.

Question 2 adds mortality to the mix. Time is limited, which sharpens our priorities.

Question 3 is the hardest. It forces reflection on regret, identity and meaning.

The progression is intentional. It is a funnel from broad wishes for essential truths of life.

• Dreams (no restrictions).
• Priorities (limited time).
• Sorry (now death).

When I go through the exercise, my mind wanders to:

Question 1 – Values ​​and desires

“Imagine that you are financially safe. You have enough money to take care of your needs, now and in the future. How would you live your life? What would you do with the money? Would you change something? Would you dream.”

I would concentrate on more “free time” to spend with people I care about.

I don’t have to see the Sixtine Chapel if Mt. Everest to climb. Those things may be neat, but I have no desire to check those boxes.

I prefer to climb a hill in the adirondacks with my family and friends, settle in a nice dinner and a cozy fire. Share some stories. Get a good night’s sleep. Wake up with hot coffee on a cold morning.

I would try to feel that my money creates binding experiences for those in my life OR I’m going to go what I really care about.

Question 2 – Priorities and final mortality

“Imagine that you visit your doctor who tells you that you will have 5-10 years left to live. You will never feel sick, but you will not have a notification of the moment of death. What are you going to do in the time you have left? Do you want to change your life? How are you going to live your remaining years?”

This window from 5 to 10 years old focuses my mind to one subject: my daughter and my wife. If I had less than 10 years to live, everything would run (even more than it already) to spend time and shower love them.

As I think more, my secondary focus would ensure that they would be in order after I got away. Both emotionally and financially.

The financial side … Yes, you want a financial plan, estate plan, reasonable life insurance, etc.

On the emotional side, I would like to teach Gandalfian -Citat:

“Finish? No, the journey does not end here. Death is just a different path, a path that we all have to take.”

(Sidenote … I have been running more lately to train a half marathon and to listen to an e-book The Fellowship of the Ring Like me. I’m just in one Lord of the rings mood.)

Question 3 – Sorry, identity and meaning

“Imagine that your doctor shakes you with the news that you only have 24 hours left to live. Brand on which feelings occur if you confront your very real mortality. What have you missed? Who didn’t you become? What have you not received?”

What did I miss? Good. What a unique feeling to feel a universe of love for your child, but knowing that they will have no memories of you. That’s difficult.

I will grow old with my wife. Another intestinal pot. It is difficult to type these words.

Regarding earlier decisions, or who I didn’t get and couldn’t do … I am more satisfied than I thought I would be. I think back to my conversation with Jordan Grumet about the regret of the dying person.

Like me Got older, I feel that I have lived more and more for a life True to myself, instead of making decisions that others had expected from me. I am not perfect, but I will continue. I feel satisfied with that.

I also know that I tend to bottle my feelings, to the detriment of myself and the people around me. But I work on it, so I feel some satisfaction there.

Have you answered the three questions from George Kinder?

If you spend 15 minutes on the three questions from George Kinder, you might be surprised. Certain feelings and desires and regret will jump at the front of your mind. Some thoughts you expected, but others that you might overwhelm you.

It is important to think beyond money in what Really important In your life.

Now decide what to do with the time you are given.

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