Sarah crashed a bottle of champagne to share with a friend while they prepared to attend a 40th birthday party.
Within an hour they had polished the lot and were on the way.
Drinks flocked at the party while waiters hurried and top up glasses. Sarah soon lost an eye on how many drinks she had had.
Then the night took an embarrassing turn.
“I didn’t really eat and I went outside for a cigarette – I only smoked when I drank,” Sarah says.
“Because I was drunk, I squatted down to extinguish my cigarette, fall forward and landed on my face on a concrete driveway.”
The drunk fall left Sarah with a bruised face and a split lip – and a deep feeling of shame.
“I didn’t go to the hospital. I went home and fainted, “Sarah recalls.
Growing up in England, Booing was part of the culture and Sarah was known as a ‘party girl’
‘I didn’t drink just enjoying one drink. I often drank to get drunk, “says Sarah
The next morning the face of Sarah was still ‘bruised, swollen and tender’ when her five -year -old daughter entered to check her.
“Mummy, what’s wrong with your face?” she asked.
It was a deadly wake-up call for Sarah.
“I felt fear and fear in the well of my stomach. I pretended that I had just had a stupid accident and fallen, “she says.
‘I felt so completely ashamed that I had fallen when I was drunk.
‘I hated myself because I was always the one who drank more than others and fooled himself. Deep inside I knew that my relationship with alcohol was not healthy. ‘
Sarah was known as the ‘party girl’ all her life.
Growing up in Manchester, in the north of England, was only part of the culture.
In her 1920s, while at the university, Sarah and her friends would regularly go out ‘with the intention of getting drunk’. After graduating, she moved to London for work.
‘I worked in recruitment in the nineties with a real’ work hard, play hard ‘culture. People knew me as a “big drinker”, but on the outside it didn’t really look like I had a problem, “says Sarah.
‘I didn’t drink just enjoying one drink. I often drank to get drunk. ‘
Yet she was very ‘functioning’.
“I would sleep for five or six hours after drinking a night, but didn’t think it was the norm and what everyone did, so I never questioned it,” she says.
After she had hit the gym, she drank a kale smoothie and – in her mind – had acquitted the sins of the previous night. Towards evening she would be back in the pub.
“Nobody has a car in London, so we didn’t have to think:” I drive tonight so I can’t drink, “she says.
This took place until Sarah took a year off to travel through Australia, where she met her now-man Angus in 2002.
The couple married in 2006 and then moved to Perth in 2010, where they had their first child.
While Sarah did not drink during pregnancy or breastfeeding, early motherhood completely changed its drinking habits.
“Drinking for me went from something that I did to socialize to my reward at the end of the day,” she admits.
“I had always drunk with other people – never alone – but as a mother I was at home with anyone else to talk to.”
Because Australia was not her home country, Sarah felt isolated and lonely, so alcohol began to use as a ‘way to switch off’ at the end of the day.
After welcoming her second child in 2011, her bad drinking habits continued.
On the 40th of a friend after a few too many drinks, Sarah was outside a cigarette when she lost her balance and first fell on the concrete. She was left with a bruised face and split lip (photo)
“I would sleep for five or six hours after drinking a night, but didn’t think it was the norm and what everyone did, so I never questioned it,” says Sarah (depicted since she stopped drinking) says
Sarah tried to set herself rules – as only one glass have in the evening – but she could not hold on to it, often polishing the entire bottle in one go.
‘I was still functioning, led a company, took care of my children and walked half marathons. I didn’t drink every day and I didn’t drink during the day. ‘
But the cracks began to show.
Sarah would wake up at 3 o’clock with her heart racing and feeling anxious all day, just to find lighting with her first drink that evening.
But it was only in the disastrous fall on the 40th birthday party that Sarah really started to question her habits.
She decided to try a 21 -day detox that she eventually reached for up to 100 days. “I was absolutely great,” she says.
‘I couldn’t believe the difference – I had more energy, I was motivated and slept better, I was happier and felt like a dark cloud had taken out of my head.
“I thought I was solved now and that I clearly had no problem.”
But unfortunately she was slipped back in old habits within a few weeks of completing the challenge.
She spent the next two years trying – and failure – to moderate her drink. Eventually she decided to throw in the towel and stop it completely.
Sarah describes herself as a ‘gray area drinker’ with ‘no off switch’, instead of an alcoholic. She insists that she was not dependent on alcohol, but would drink too much.
After she realized that many other women fell into this category that she had identified for herself, launched her own austerity coaching company.
Now that her children are 13 and 15 years old, she teaches them about the dangers of alcohol and she is proud of being an alcohol -free mother.
“We talk a lot about it. I told them why I don’t want them to drink too early and what alcohol does with their developing brain, “she says.
‘They know they can have fun without alcohol and that there are risks associated with alcohol. I didn’t know any of this information when I was of their age, so I am happy that they can make informed choices. ‘
Sarah has been sober since 2019 and has not looked back.
‘My whole life has changed and my relationship with myself is completely different. I never had anything to help with uncomfortable emotions and the only thing I did was drink. I had no resilience, “says Sarah.
‘I learned that I don’t need alcohol to have fun. I have grown in confidence and self -confidence. I approach 50 in the best physical and mental health I have ever been and have the feeling that I have just started working. ‘
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