It is not about proving yourself to every skeptic, but about retaining a stubborn number of your own victories. Follow them somewhere, even private. Document what you launch, what you solve and when the chance to argue for yourself – or for someone else – that income is important.
When I left my senior engineering role at Monzo, a British challenger bank, for co-founder of a deep technical startup, the reactions were rather predictable. Why run away from a safe, well -paid job, especially during a technical decline? Why take the risk when a woman in one of the most men dominated by men?
I did not fierce those questions. They sat with me, made me in second place more times than it is pleasant to admit. In the end, however, I realized that the only way to build something was really different was to completely get off the safe path.
Today I am a co-founder and chief scientist Gradient Laboratories. Here we build the first safe AI customer service agent for industries that have always been too complex – and too tightly regulated – for automation. We don’t just try to make AI work; We try to make it work safely, in places where it is wrong, has real consequences.
Build from a place of trust
You must be intentional before the corporate culture calculates to something that you never wanted to create.
Starting a business was not about compiling titles and job descriptions. It was about building trust from the ground. When we launched Gradient Labs, we knew we didn’t want to dive into endless zom marathons. Instead, we went to Sevilla, rented a house and brought next to each other for two weeks, debating, disagree, laughing and slowly erasing the subtle hierarchies that we wore from our previous professional life.
That decision was not just aesthetics. Face-to-face, trust becomes something that you live through: you see how people deal with friction, brand who listens when it is awkward, that changes thought when they should. Those things are almost invisible in spaces only remotely, but they form the culture in ways that you cannot undo later.
While you founded a team, or even thinking about one, grabbing early chances for unfiltered interaction is a must. Even work in the same physical space for a few days, woven with unstructured time, the dynamic dynamics that would otherwise remain hidden for months. You must be intentional before the corporate culture calculates to something that you never wanted to create.
Reclaim the room
Nobody only gives you credibility because you are present.
One thing I learned early: bias is not something that you can work out. It is built into the room before you even enter. For example, people often focus their questions about my male co-founders. Every time it happened, I made it a point to quietly kill the conversation.
Not with anger, but with certainty. Nobody only gives you credibility because you are present. Unfortunately, many people still have to claim it, especially in traditionally dominated industries. You have to build spaces – teams, companies – where the right voices are strengthened, not overlooked.
Hire beyond the CV
We are standard gender -neutral language for everything we do. It is not a check box – Language is our reality.
So the recruitment process was something else that I realized that we had to reconsider. Bias does not start in the boardroom; It starts in how we define ‘potential’. At Gradient Labs we look beyond the nail polish. We ask: what has this person built? Who led them? What have they changed? Especially for women, who are often conditioned to underestimate their leadership, can read a completely different, much richer story between the lines.
The corporate culture must also be intentional. We are standard gender -neutral language for everything we do. It is not a check box – Language is our reality. If we want a different future, it starts in the small, everyday details.
Finding power in transparency
One of the most powerful things I did in my previous work was not necessarily tied to a technical achievement. It was part of a women’s network where we openly shared salaries, promotion time lines and feedback scores. This transparency peeled the layers of ‘maybe it is only me’ spiral and exposed the patterns that remain hidden too often. It taught me that silence only protects the system, not the individuals in it.
Being part of that community helped to normalize the conversation before it became slightly visible and structured. Even silent transparency can build momentum over time. At Gradient Labs we wear that spirit with us: transparency as a tool for collective progress, not as something to fear. It is built into how we make decisions, how we are talking about growth and how we deal with feedback. It is not always comfortable, but it is how trust is built and stored.
Converting underestimation into Momentum
Being underestimated is tiring, but it can also be powerful fuel. You don’t have to argue in every meeting, but you can still make yourself impossible to ignore. Building winnings on Momentum and Momentum will change for the people who come up behind you.
In essence, it is not about proving yourself to every skeptic, but about keeping track of your own victories. Follow them somewhere, even private. Document what you launch, what you solve and when the chance to argue for yourself – or for someone else – that income is important.
The next wave is already there
If you wonder if you are ready to start something big, then maybe know this: almost no one will ever feel ready.
Gradient Labs is still in the early days, but we are clear about what awaits us. AI will touch industries that it once sworn could never. And if we do this well, the tools we build will actually be able to trust people. At the moment, in deep technology, it is not just about who is building the future. It’s about who can imagine it completely.
If you wonder if you are ready to start something big, then maybe know this: almost no one will ever feel ready. Trust often follows action. Before the room makes room for you. Choose progress over perfection. You do not need permission – you need a small first step, and then the next one. The next generation is already looking at it. Let’s make sure they see what is possible.
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