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It started innocently enough, with a conversation about tea. My friend told me about a new real estate project that he ‘looked at’. In the beginning he didn’t say much, just that it was at a location that everyone told that it would grow in a few years. The government had announced a new airport and a highway project nearby. Also, according to my friend, the pre-launch prize was “ridiculously good” and the developer had a name that recognized people in the city.
He wasn’t on it for long. Within a few days he had paid the booking amount and signed the papers. In his mind, the deal was already a success. He could imagine the appreciation in value and the approval of his family and friends nods when he told them he saw the chance. It all looked like a straight road to a happy ending.
For a while nothing seemed wrong. The updates from the developer came regularly enough and his excitement remained intact.
But somewhere around the one -year -old Mark, the updates became more vagabond. The promised approvals, which were supposedly just around the corner, stayed away ‘a few months’. The construction site, when he visited, seemed creepy quiet. The “Prime location” showed no signs of the surrounding development that was predicted with confidence. Rumors even started floating around financing problems and disputes with contractors.
Since then, every conversation I had with my friend about the project started to wear a vague undertone of worries. By the time he really understood the depth of the problem, the easy outputs had disappeared. His money was tied – and that was big money for him – and the emotional weight of the decision began to settle.
I remember that he said, “If I had just waited and thought it well before I signed, I would have seen what I didn’t want to see then. But I didn’t want to miss.”
That line stayed with me, because over the years I have heard different variations of it and it is the same trap that many of us fall into.
We do this in real estate, in business partnerships, and also when taking exhibition decisions. We tell ourselves that the timing is too good, or the chance too rare, or even that the benefit is too clear. We also ignore the small hesitations (vague terms in an agreement, perfectly sounding story, etc.) because it feels delaying as if we are losing our lead.
The problem is that in each of these cases it is much more difficult than coming in. You not only have the decision reversed, but also dealing with the sunken costs, the clumsiness, the statements and sometimes the fault of having others with you. And all that could have been avoided with a little more space, a little more break, between “I think this” and “I am in it.”
Warren Buffett once said:
It is a lot easier to stay out of trouble than to get out of trouble.
It sounds almost trivial until you have experienced the mess to try to undo a decision that you didn’t want to have taken.
Over the years I have built up my own list of problems that I would rather keep at a distance:
- Contract
- Spirits and smoking
- Junk and packaged food
- Gamble
- Adventurous sport
- Get-Rich-Quick schedules
- Leverage in life and investments
- Certain business groups
- Complex companies, bad companies, bad managements
- Aggressive driving to ‘save’ for a few minutes
- Go into unnecessary online debates
- People who thrive on drama
- Provide money to friends or family members without clear conditions
- Answer messages or e -mails when it is angry or emotional
- Say yes to social or speaking obligations I already know that I will hate
- Take a party in the disputes of other people
- Agree with “partnerships” without clear roles and expectations
- Accepting Freebies who are accompanied by hidden obligations or expectations
- Act on fear of missing instead of understanding
- Make major financial obligations in a hurry
- Post or respond online without considering the wrinkle effects
- Argue with my wife (if I know she is often right)
You may think that I am risk -averse to the point of paralysis, but it is not. It is just that I realized how much time, money and peace you save by simply not walking in certain rooms in the first place.
You see, we like to regard problems as something that happens to us from the outside. But if we are honest, most of the problems start inside us, long before the outside world delivers its blow. It starts in the silent impatience to make something happen, and in the inconvenience to sit with uncertainty. Even worse, it also happens in the subtle urge to prove ourselves, or in that flicker of greed that tells us: “If you do not act now, you will lose this forever.”
I say this from experience, almost when having a master’s degree in things that I should have left alone (some from the list above). And the pattern is always the same. It starts from a quick nod to the risks, followed by a much longer conversation about why those risks do not really apply this time. Then the decision, the dedication and ultimately the slow, reluctant realization that you are now dealing with something that you could have just walked by.
Now, the strange thing in the midst of all this is that problems rarely look like problems in the beginning. It is often dressed as opportunities or urgency. And if you already tend to it, the disguise is perfect. This is why staying outside is almost always easier than coming out.
Consider investing. Most of us spend our time with questions, “What should I buy?” Very few ask, “What should I avoid?” This is because we pay attention to investors who make daring movements (“Oh, have you heard of that investor who made a 40x on those shares he was talking about on Twitter only 4 years ago?”))
We love the story of someone who won great and has won. But it is the investor who does it boring by simply avoiding ruin by bypassing the permanent loss of capital, which often comes far ahead, without hero-lords (multi-baggers in their portfolio).
The same is true in life. You don’t have to fight every fight and accept every invitation. If you want to avoid certain paths, do not assume that it is about fear. It can even be about maintaining your clarity, energy and freedom for the things that really matter.
Now we often see pausing before we decide as a sign of weakness or hesitation. But it isn’t. A break is not an absence of action. Instead, it is the space where you can actually to see. And in that room you may notice things that will miss a hasty spirit, such as the gap between promise and reality, the mismatch between words and actions, and sometimes the weak scent of something, even when the surface looks perfect (my wife is an expert in the spotting).
The friend who entered the real estate rumble did not lack intelligence. What he missed at that time was room between the sales pitch and the decision. That space could have saved him for years.
So how do you create that space? I learned it in the difficult way, but it has a habit to make a big decision, whether it is financial, personal or professional, with at least 4-5 days often a savior. If it is really a good opportunity, it will survive your break. If it starts to feel less convincing after a few nights of sleep, you have probably saved yourself problems.
Another practice is to look at emotional hooks. Greed, fear, vanity and the fear of missing are the four most reliable drivers of bad decisions. If you feel one of them strong, it is a sign to delay.
You can also ask yourself the “regret” test “:” If this goes wrong, how much will I regret it? And if all goes well, will it really change my life, or will it just be fun to have? ” If the disadvantage feels life -changing and the benefit feels mild, it is a signal to get away.
Maintaining a “avoiding list”, as I mentioned above, also helps. When investing, this can mean certain sectors, business models or types of management that you have learned to mean distrust. In life, people, patterns or environments can consistently lead to poor results. Writing them down and viewing them regularly deals with vague intuition in conscious filters. And just as important is learning from narrow phone calls, not just disasters. Most people only reflect after something went wrong. But if you think back to the moments when you have almost made a bad choice and have been lucky instead, you will discover some of your most valuable lessons.
See, the costs to get out of trouble are rarely only the money or time. It is the emotional resistance, the way it occupies your thoughts, the resentment towards yourself for stepping first.
Proud ensures that you hold longer than you should. Suffering costs prevent you from reducing your losses. And the story that you have told yourself and others about how smart your choice was, makes it harder to return without feeling your fool. All this means that you not only fight the problem, but also for yourself.
None of this means avoiding all risks. Life itself is risk. Loving, creating and in the unknown steps is risks to risk. But there is a difference between the risk resulting from understanding and risk that arises from impulse. The first can fail, but it makes you wiser. The second often leaves scars behind those years to heal.
We spend so much of the life of yesterday’s mistakes that we forget that it is possible to live without constantly making new ones. The real convenience that Buffett speaks is not the convenience of a life without a challenge, but the convenience of a spirit that does not add unnecessary suffering to what is already there.
If you can start at the first step before the story in your head takes over, you can notice that there is less to repair and less to regret. You just live, move and act from a spirit that sees. And when there is such a see, stopping out of trouble, no longer as an achievement, but becomes as natural as breathing.
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