Eric questions: Letter writer cannot get answers about the death of friends

Dear Eric: Through a complete event I recently became aware of the death of my oldest friend about a year ago. Mary and I ran from each other on the other side of each other in the 60s and 70s. I played with her and with her older brother as children, and our families were close by.

She had been my friend for about 60 years.

I have been desperate to learn the circumstances of her death. I have googled my brain and followed every lead. There are no death messages available online and no death messages. There are no newspaper articles about her death.

The secretary of her lawyer does not let me talk to him, referring to the confidentiality of the lawyer-client, even if she died, and he withdrew to represent her at her death. The heir of her legacy will not return my phone calls. I cannot even record where she died, so that I can submit a Freedom or Information Act request to the correct law enforcement agencies.

I don’t have a claim on her legacy. I don’t have any action at all. I just want to know what happened to my old friend. I tried everything I know. I hoped you might have some ideas.

– Friend in the dark

Dear friend: You have my sympathies – it can be so difficult to learn from the death of a friend and not have the closure of a service, a conversation or more information.

It is possible that Mary’s heir and/or her family want to keep the circumstances of her death private. It is also possible that there is not much to know and, if you discover it, it would not give you the peace you are looking for.

Part of this chase is probably motivated by sadness. That makes sense. And it is completely of course to want to know more details about the death of a loved one. But details will not be as to you as much as finding a way to commemorate the relationship you had and the life she lived. Take the time to concentrate on her, perhaps on a walk in nature or somewhere that had a special meaning for both of you. Thank her that she is part of your life and wish her the best on her journey. The ‘how’ of her death is important, but the details of her life and your relationship are more important and will help you by supporting your grief.

Dear Eric: This is in reference to ‘worried in Wisconsin’, from a clinician of substance abuse that was concerned about the opioid abuse of a niece.

Make sure that everyone has Narcan in the life of your niece and knows that he has and knows in the life of your niece. Only the niece can decide to pursue a treatment, but everyone can offer life -saving treatment if they have an overdose.

– Doctor reader

Dear doctor: Narcan, a brand name for Naloxon, a medicine used to quickly reverse opioid overdoses is an important source. In some cases it is free and free for recipe, through some national and local agencies and community distribution programs. It comes in several forms, including a nasal spray. BYSTELS training can be completed in less than an hour and is available online through organizations such as the Red Cross and the Ministry of Health of many states. Although Naloxon can reverse the effects of overdose of opioids, according to the National Institute of Drug Abuse, it is still necessary to call 911 immediately, so that the person can get attention and continuous monitoring.

Dear Eric: I read the letter from “Outside only”, who had a guest at a party of the fourth July that said it was too hot outside and spent the evening inside. I know you answered the host, but you were not empathetic for the guest. There are people who just can’t handle warmth. I am one of them. Outside the summer heat, I causes intense physical pain and discomfort and makes it very difficult to visit and enjoy a party with others.

Now that the hostess knows that this is a problem, she could try to house all her guests this year by putting seats under parasols, or in the shade of the house, or put fans in a few areas. How many people really like to be outside for hours in the middle of the hot summer sun?